Life is full of paradoxes and I am no exception. Neither are you!

I am BOTH the frequency of love AND a bad bitch 😉

These two songs were recently sent my way via dear ones in my life and both immediately resonated (in totally different ways!) so I'm sharing them with you today.

Check this one out if you need a little reminder that you are beautiful and supported by life.

Check this one out if you need a little reminder that you are a badass that's not to be f*cked with!

WARNING: Sooo much profanity 😂 Don't play this with your kids or grandma around!

What paradoxes are you living lately? Email me and tell me how you'd complete the sentence: I am both _____ and ______.

What if you could be 10% more satisfied in your life?

I just returned home from a fabulous vacation to Maui with one of my dearest friends. I wanted to share a few takeaways!

One of my personal intentions for the week was to practice being deeply satisfied -- to allow myself to experience the fullness and perfection of the moment -- regardless of what was happening.

Setting such an intention means being willing to see where I'm NOT satisfied and the various ways I rob myself of life's fullness Usually with ideals, expectations, assumptions or judgments of how it "should" be.

Any moment of dissatisfaction (heavy winds, overpriced food, inconsiderate people, traffic accident) became an opportunity to choose.

And every choice to be deeply satisfied (in spite of circumstances not because of them) strengthened my muscle It's the only workout I did all week!

There are so many reasons my heart returned home full to the brim...

Time with my friendTiffany tops the list!
The delight of watching magnificent whales jump and breach right off the shoreline
Beautiful, bright colors in every direction you turn
Breathtaking sunsets that never get old
A chance to pause all responsibilities long enough to reflect and gain a new perspective

I AM deeply satisfied

Notice what gets in your way of experiencing deep satisfaction. Then ask yourself, "am I willing to let go of this so I can experience more beauty and joy?"

Maybe it's as simple as choosing to be satisfied in any given moment. I invite you to give it a try and let me know how it goes!

Where does your ability to “make it work” get in the way of having what you truly desire?

Last week, I ordered a new rug for my living room, and I was super excited when it arrived. I hauled this heavy package up to my apartment and unrolled it… only to find out that it was way too big for my space.

Somehow my measurements were really off (that’s a whole other story). I thought it was pretty funny that I had this mess of a rug to contend with. 

Laughing at myself, I took a picture of it and shared it on Facebook. Everybody commented, “Oh, put it under the furniture” or “Did you try to put it the other way?”

It wasn’t just two comments. It was a whole bunch of commentary about how I could make it work. 

Look, I love resourcefulness. It’s one of the qualities I love about myself and find attractive in other people. When they don’t get stopped by their circumstances, get creative, and make it work. I love that! 

In this scenario, there was no making it work that was going to be satisfying for me.

If I had shoved the rug under the furniture, I could have made it fit. But it would have looked like I’d made it work. It wouldn’t have looked like the beautiful rug in the middle of my living room the way I wanted and envisioned. I would’ve been settling. 

How often are you making something work instead of having what you truly desire? And how do you know when it’s time to just “make it work” versus push forward and stand up for what you truly want?

When I went to sell the rug locally, I posted it in a few online marketplaces. And again, the commentary was all about how to make it work.

I opened my Instagram the next day and Cory Muscara’s snippet for that day was: “Not being willing to let go of a life we like is often the reason we don’t have a life we love.”

It felt like a little nod from the universe.

Just because you can make something work, doesn’t mean you should or you have to. What if you could trade in making it work to have what you really want?

The law of polarity says if the desire is present, the way to fulfill it is present, too. Maybe the question becomes: Are you willing to let go of what you like, or let go of “making it work”?

Are you willing to allow yourself what it is that you truly desire?

Let that inquiry percolate for you. I’d love to hear from you as to what came up. And If there’s a place where you recognize your settling and you’re ready to step in and move toward the things that you most desire, then reach out. That’s what I’m here for!

I pulled a card for you today. I invite you to take a deep breath and open your heart to receive whatever part of this message your soul most needs to hear today.

LALLA
The Saint of Spoken Words

When your soul selects her card:

Words have the power to shift our reality or to continue to reinforce it. Louise Hay, founder of Hay House, turned to me during a dinner party, looked me right in the eyes, and declared,"Every word you say is an affirmation."This is perhaps one of the most crucial spiritual lessons to remember. If we are not separate from the soul, and if the soul is not separate from the divine, then we have the power to co-create our life.

Lalla is the invitation to pay close attention to each word we say to ourselves within, and to the words we say about ourselves and to the people we love. She is the acknowledgment from the soul thatour every sentence is a prayer. If we want more love, more light, more of that joy and freedom that expands our capacity to be present in the world, then Lalla reminds us that we can become the author of our own reality right now. We can speak our desires into being.

Lalla is the reminder that we are so powerful that changing the words we use to describe ourselves can change the trajectory of our lives. We can choose to focus our attention on each "I am" statement we say. And we can infuse our lives with the nectar that comes when we act on the truth thatwe are not separate from the divine.

What are the most powerful words for me to use frequently right now?

I want to invite you to take a little inventory of the company you’re keeping. 

Did your mom say things like this to you when you were a kid? You’d meet somebody at school or bring them around and she’d say. “I don’t want you hanging out with them. That’s not good company to keep.” Whatever she saw in them, it was something she didn’t want you to be susceptible to. Her encouragement would be not to spend much time with that person.

I think this concept totally rings true for us as adults. And yet, it can be really easy to fall into habitual patterns and find ourselves hanging out with people because we don’t really question it. We get into a habit and it’s just what we do.

A longtime friend of mine was recently expressing some challenges she’s having in a particular friendship. Based on the conversation, she’s outgrown it but doesn’t know how to end it. 

A lot of times if we’re in a romantic relationship that’s not working, we break up. But, how often do we break up with friends (or even service providers or people we’ve been working with or seeing for a long time)?

Maybe who we got to be in that relationship worked for a certain time, but it doesn’t work anymore. In fact, it’s feeling constraining or limiting in some way to be in the relationship.

Either that relationship needs to transform so that you can show up differently, or you need to find a way to end or leave the relationship.

What about you? What’s happening for you in your relationships? Do you have any that you’ve outgrown? Do you feel a little stuck as to how to get out of it? Or maybe you’re really interested in keeping the relationship, but you see that it needs to change in some way—which probably includes a somewhat uncomfortable but necessary conversation.

The company you keep matters. The energy of the people you surround yourself with matters. It will influence how you see yourself, how you see life, what you believe to be possible. It matters.

So, I invite you to take a quick inventory. 

• Who are the people you’re spending the most time with?

• Who do you get to be when you’re with them?

• Do you like that expression of yourself?

• Are there relationships that have expired and need to end?

• Are there relationships you’re committed to but they need to transform so that you can show up more fully and freely as yourself?

Take some time to reflect on that, and I’d love to hear from you. If you find that some of those things need to happen and you’re not quite sure what steps to take and you’d like some support, reach out to me. That’s what I do. I help people true up their lives and their relationships to their heart and what they care about and what really matters most to them.

 See ya next time!

There’s a question I’ve been asking myself lately. Perhaps it has value for you, too. 

Is there a place in your life where you’re holding tightly to something, for fear that letting go would mean that you don’t have what you need?

I’ve been noticing this coming up for me lately. The part of me that’s afraid that if I let go of what I have, that’ll be it. I’ll lose something. Something better won’t come along. I’ll somehow be left without what I most need or want.

When that feeling is present for me, there’s a lot of fear, grasping and desire to control. It’s coming from a place of scarcity, which is not where I want to be living my life from.

This shows up in all kinds of ways. Sometimes it’s a relationship or friendship that’s naturally drifting apart, but I want to hold tightly to it. Sometimes it shows up in my business as a program I’ve created, and even though the energy is gone from it and I know I should retire it, there’s a sense that I’m still holding on, just in case.

This question was amplified for me recently when my friend and mentor, Darla LeDoux shared an audio teaching she’d created entitled What has to die so you can live now?

It’s a powerful question, and one I’d been asking myself for a while. This amplified it and took it to the next level. It invites us to consider that everything in life is seasonal. Everything is a process of death and rebirth. This cycle is happening all the time. 

As we move through fall and coming into winter, we see this displayed in nature right before our eyes as the leaves begin to let go and fall from the trees. Things become dormant and barren… and eventually, spring back to life.

And so it is with us: aspects of ourselves, seasons of our relationship, things in our business. So, my question to you (and to myself) today is:

What am I holding on to that’s taking up space where something else wants to come through?

One of the places I’m looking is in my physical space. When I open my drawers and they’re overflowing, where do I need to remove things and make room for what wants to come next? Am I holding on and making it impossible for life to give me what it wants to give me?

These are the questions and inquiries for you to be in. 

• Do you see something that you’re holding onto? 

• What is it? 

• What do you sense is underneath that holding?

• What might be possible if you let go and accept the natural season of death that wants to make room for more life to come in?

As always, I’d love to hear from you. See you next time!

I pulled a card for you today. I invite you to take a deep breath and open your heart to receive whatever part of this message your soul most needs to hear today.

AURALITE

Essential Meaning: Mindfulness, meditation on the present

To be mindful is to be aware of the now rather than distracted by the past or future and any thoughts ofoughts, shoulds, andmight-haves.

Your quest for healing requires discovering what you are truly thinking and feeling when you are not distracting yourself. Auralite Spirit calls you to be mindful of your needs right now, for this may be a time to let tears flow or laughter arise, to recognize something so subtle that you previously missed it, or to understand that you are so much more than what you can accomplish or produce.

Be here in the moment, fully present and accepting of what is. Make the time to meditate today and simply observe what you know and feel, without starting to talk yourself out of it and into something else. No matter how hard this moment may seem, simply by observing it you will change it.

So, I was just doing that thing where I was killing myself to carry everything in from the car in one trip. Do you ever do that? Refuse to make a second trip and load yourself down completely with everything.

As I struggled to get in the door to the hallway of my building, I set down a bulk package of toilet paper, opened the door, and kicked the toilet paper down the hall. One of my neighbors came down the hall and automatically gave me a smile of recognition. (Like, “Yep, I do that too.”)

He said, “Would you like some help?”

Without even thinking, I said, “Oh no, it’s good. I’m just going right there.”

He said, “Okay” and kept walking. I kicked my toilet paper a few steps more and was at my door. But it left me wondering, why do I so automatically say no to help? Wouldn’t it have been nice if he’d picked it up and set it at my door? I also noticed a part of me that would’ve been uncomfortable had he done that.

One of the things I’ve been working with in the last couple of years is the ability to be supported and receive. I’m painfully self-reliant at times. There are areas where that works to my benefit, but there are a lot of places that it’s limiting not to let myself be supported in ways that would feel really good.

I’ve been stretching into that more and more. I have people who support me in my business, where I used to do everything on my own. I have somebody who helps with planning and execution. I have help with the newsletter and a bookkeeper. I’m generally more receptive to my friends and people I’m in a relationship with, to receive from them in really beautiful ways.

And, my automatic was “No, it’s good. I’ve got it.” So just noticing, what would it be like if I took a pause to consider if that would be good for me. What if I expanded my ability to receive support even more?

While there’s nothing wrong with being self-sufficient, my questions for you today are: 

• Are you self-sufficient in a way that limits you?

• Would you like to be more receptive in your life?

• Are there places where you could use more support?

• If so, what might that look like for you?

That’s my thought for today. If you identify a place where you’d love more support, and it includes someone like me in your life, that’s what I do. I help people stretch their edges and move into spaces that are unfamiliar and perhaps a little uncomfortable so they have a greater capacity for love, connection, joy and peace in their lives.

See ya next time!

Why am I encouraging you to register now for a retreat that's an entire year away?

It's simple: Everything in your life will change when you buy the ticket.

One committed action sets off a domino effect and the Universe starts to conspire on our behalf! I've been watching this play out in my own life in such a delightful way.

Ever since I returned from leading retreat in Guatemala last month I've been feeling a deep desire for my own retreat experience. I want to step back from my life and my business and gain the kind of perspective you can only get when you look from a distance.

I started tuning in to my heart for direction and asking the Universe to support me in my intentions. I paid close attention to the things that were catching my interest and turning me on. I know this is how Source speaks to me and I trust my desire to lead me exactly where I need to go -- it always does 💘

Then an opportunity came along that made my heart buzz with excitement (and a little nervousness too) -- a chance to deep dive with some of my favorite dance teachers in an online immersion retreat. My heart said YES (this feels like a pull at my solar plexus). It's my job to trust and take action. I registered for the retreat!

Almost immediately, things in my world began shifting and organizing around my commitment for clarity. I started to hear things I hadn't heard before and take action that I'd previously put off for months. The parts of my life that are NOT clear are coming sharply into focus and asking for my loving attention.

My retreat has already started -- it started the moment I bought the ticket.

That's how it works!

Commitment sets transformation in motion.

And that's why I'm inviting you to commit to a retreat happening 11 months from now. Because it will begin the moment your heart says yes <3

Trust your desire. If your heart is saying yes (this might feel like tingles, belly butterflies, lightness, joy), buy the ticket and watch your life start to organize around what's possible.

July 16th-23rd 2022
Lake Atitlan, Guatemala

My question for you today is: are you more afraid of failure or success?

It might seem like a silly question, but I implore you to ask and really tell the truth. Are you more afraid that you’ll go for something and you’ll fail—or do you actually have a fear that you could succeed and get it, and then what?

For many reasons, this poem has been rolling around in my head for the past few days.

Our Greatest Fear by Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. 

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. 

We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?'. 

Actually, who are you not to be? 

You are a child of God. 

Your playing small does not serve the world. 

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. 

We are all meant to shine, as children do. 

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. 

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. 

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Do you find yourself dimming your shine so that you don’t make people around you uncomfortable? Are you self-sabotaging in some way because success would mean certain things in your life would have to change? Are there things that you want, but you’re just not letting yourself have them?

I know it seems crazy to say that we would avoid success, but I see it happen all the time. I work with individuals and business owners who are out to create amazing lives and, for some, actually getting what they want is petrifying.

What story would you have to give up—about yourself or about life—if you actually had what you wanted? If you let yourself go toward what you want? If you let yourself be as you want to be?

I think that’s the ultimate success: that we can show up in our truth and authenticity in any given situation and be able to receive whatever comes. Holding our ground and holding onto ourselves. 

Are you able to be the person that you most want to be in the world? If not, what’s getting in your way? Is it possible that you’re really just afraid to shine?

I’d love to hear from you. If you resonate with this, please let me know what you hear! I’ll see you next time.

My question for you today is: how long are you going to complain about that thing before you actually do something about it?

Everybody complains. Complaining is a normal, human thing. One of my colleagues uses the term “recreational complaining.” We all do that sometimes, right? 

We want to talk to our friends, family, or partner, and we just kind of want to complain—“recreationally”—about things that didn’t go the way we wanted. It’s a way that we connect, relate, and find empathy for the human experience.

And then there are themes you‘ve been complaining about for years but you’re not really doing anything to shift them.

Bring to mind an area of life where you continuously complain. Maybe it’s a relationship, maybe with a family member. You’re not really willing to cut them out of your life, but you don’t like the relationship the way it is so you find yourself complaining about it a lot.

Maybe you’ve been in the same job for a long time and it’s sucking the life out of you. You’re not doing much to change it but you continue to say you want something different.

Maybe it’s something about yourself, your body, your habits, how you feel in your own skin. Maybe you don’t feel like you want to feel. You’ve resorted to joking and making light of it, but you’re not really doing anything to change it.

What is your perpetual complaint? What is that thing for you that you just keep complaining about? What is it costing you to keep this complaint around? And what’s the payoff or benefit for you to keep this area of your life the way it is without ever doing anything about it. This cost/payoff analysis is powerful when we find ourselves bumping our head against the wall.

Take this one area of your life, and write it on the top of a piece of paper. Draw a line down the middle, and do a brain dump. What’s it costing you to complain about this? What’s the payoff? What are you getting out of it? 

Now, many people will immediately say, “Nothing! I don’t get anything out of this relationship being this way or complaining about it.” I challenge you to look again. There’s always a payoff for keeping something around. Dig deep; you can do it! 

I’d love to hear from you. What comes up when you get really honest with yourself about the cost and the payoff of this area staying like it is? 

See you next time!

Today I want to talk about kindness. Particularly kindness toward yourself.

If I were to ask you to do a little assessment and just reflect, how kind would you say you are to yourself?

Especially if you’re someone who’s on a personal growth path who’s committed to personal development or transformation, you may always be looking for ways in which you can grow or “improve.”

Sometimes when we’re really committed to this lifestyle, we start to look for all the things that are wrong with us and need to be better. We’re always working on something somehow. Can you relate to that? Are you a perpetual self-helper? 

Look, I’m a coach. I’m a believer in personal development. I’m always engaged at some level.

But I remember one of my early meditation teachers saying that the true mark of our spiritual development is not how long we can sit on a cushion with our eyes closed in deep meditation.

The real mark of our spiritual and personal development is how gracious and kind we can be with ourselves, especially when things don’t work out exactly like we thought they would.

Can we show ourselves kindness and compassion?

These are my questions for you today:

• How nice are you to yourself?

• How kind are you to yourself?

• How gracious are you when things don’t go the way you want?

I noticed this for myself last week. I had some things come up on my calendar that I wasn’t expecting, so I ended up rearranging some commitments.

At first, I had a sense of guilt or failure about it. Like, I should have been looking further ahead; I should have known better.

The fact that I had to move some things felt like a deficiency on my part. Perhaps I could have been more thoughtful in my planning.

At the end of the day, is it doing me any good to berate myself over this? What if I could show myself some kindness and compassion instead?

OK, maybe next time I pause and think about it more in-depth before I make plans. Yes, I can take that bit of wisdom.

But can I also be gracious and kind with myself about needing to rearrange things? It didn’t go like I thought it was going to go. And that’s OK.

How much kindness are you showing yourself?

I love hearing from you! So, if something’s coming up for you, just hit reply and let me know.

For all you wildhearted business owners,

If you’re anything like me, you created your business to help others, make an impact in the world, and grow your income.

And maybe you’ve tried #allthethings:

• Hired a business coach

• Changed your mindset

• Networked your heart out

• Setup your website

• SEO’d yourself to exhaustion

But somehow those big dollars and freedom that you keep hearing about remain elusive.

The problem is when you leaned into your passion and ditched your 9-5:

• Your passion became your 24/7

• Your expectations of success are far different from what you’re actually experiencing

• And now you’re tired and on the brink of burnout

You may be frustrated because you’re not making the income you want and not touching nearly as many lives as you might have hoped.

I see you, friend. And I’m here to tell you that STRUGGLE IS OPTIONAL.

Let me introduce you to my friend, Dr. Davia Shepherd, author of Grow Smarter: Collaboration secrets to transform your income and impact

Davia's new book will introduce you to the 5 foundational pillars of collaboration that can support you to work from a place of ease and flow while growing your business, income, and impact.

Imagine what it would be like if you could:

• Save time by not having to search for clients in every nook and cranny of the world and interwebs

• Reduce stress by not having to do #allthethings outside your zone of brilliance

• Make true connections with other entrepreneurs on a deeper level

• Have a steady stream of your ideal clients seek you out, ready and excited to work with you

Free yourself from the old beliefs that there’s not enough abundance for all. Learn foundational pillars that will support you and your business for years to come. Choose collaboration over competitionand skyrocket your business to the next level.

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Imagine what is possible when we come together and support one another in an intentional, aligned way!

How do you know when it's time to get out of your comfort zone and enter the wild unknown?

That's what Bethany and I riff on in the latest Dialed In! Podcast. For those that don't know Bethany, she is an international speaker & leader of rebellions who takes entrepreneurs & leaders from forcing and hustling to a business/life of alignment!

Stepping into the Wild Unknown requires courage and risk. I share my personal journey in this episode and how I have radically transformed my life by being courageous enough to step into the unknown and live on my terms!

BONUS: Listeners get access to my Ditch Doubt course!

This morning, I did an amazing podcast interview on the topic of daring to disappoint. 

I shared that for much of my life, I was nice. I was accommodating. I was good.

I was so afraid that if I wasn’t those things someone would be disappointed with me. And I couldn’t think of anything worse than people being disappointed with me.

It feels awful.

But there came a point when I realized that being nice and trying so hard to be good was so constraining. It really didn’t work for actually getting what I wanted in my life.

Sometimes what I want, or what is true for me, is going to upset somebody and potentially disappoint them. Going through my life trying not to disappoint is like going through life with my hands tied behind my back.

It was a point of no return.

I decided this whole being nice thing was an absolute energy drain. Something had to give.

We all do this, to some extent, right? 

It’s the thing you just won’t ask for. 

It’s the conversation you’re unwilling to have with your partner. 

It’s the boundary you won’t draw with your employer. 

You have a place you’re holding back in order to keep the peace and avoid rejection, disappointment or ___ insert what you’re avoiding here ___.

And you have a good reason why you do it. You’ve bought into your own bullshit.

The thing you rarely look at is -- what is it costing you to live that way? What is the cost of holding back, keeping it in, and biting your tongue? 

What’s the cost of avoiding disappointment?

When I started looking at myself, I could see it was costing me connection in my relationships. It was costing me energy and self-expression -- it takes energy to hold back what’s really true for you. 

Avoiding disappointment was getting in the way of wholeheartedly going after what I wanted in my life. 

It was much too high a price to pay!

My questions to you are...

• Where are you avoiding disappointment?

• What’s the price you’re paying for it?

If you’re at a place in your life where you're ready to be more courageous and live more of what’s true for you-- you’re at a perfect spot to come on retreat with me.

On retreat, we do the deep inner work that makes it possible to show up and be the person you most want to be in your life.

You can see details here. And, if you’re leaning in but have questions or would like to talk to me personally about whether the retreat is a right fit for you...

Alright, you guys -- DARE TO DISAPPOINT -- I promise there are beautiful, bold things on the other side!

I pulled a card for you today. I invite you to take a deep breath and open your heart to receive whatever part of this message your soul most needs to hear today.

Amaroo: The Beautiful Place

Your dreams of a more beautiful world are not a product of childish fantasy, nor idle imagination. They are true spiritual visions inspired by the universal heart that yearns for divine paradise to be manifested in all worlds. You have a life purpose to assist in the creation of divine harmony in the world, through sacred activism and the expression of your soul talents. Believe that the beautiful world you long for is not only possible but part of your spiritual responsibility to create.

Don't be scared to face a problem head-on. You don't need to be wilful about a solution, but, in facing the issues, you shall simplify the complexity and recognize the practical steps that will create healing change. Keep your mind and heart open as you ask for unconditionally loving guidance as to how you best evoke divine healing in any situation. There is an outcome available to you that is far more beautiful and divinely inspired than what you can currently envision. Ask for divine help, and trust unconditionally in the assistance that will lead you away from the limitations of your current thinking, into the perfection of what the Divine wishes for you and our world.

When it comes to creating lasting change in your life -- don't underestimate the power of micro-moves!

A micro-move is a small, consistent action infused with clear intention.

Something as simple as making your bed or drinking plenty of water, when infused with clear intention and high energy, becomes a powerful force for change.

Use micro-moves to support your growth.

GRAB YOUR JOURNAL -- Take 5 minutes and walk through this exercise.

Find a comfortable place to sit and take a few slow breaths into a soft belly. Allow yourself to relax and your heart to be open. When you feel present in your body proceed through the following questions.

1. Ask your heart, what do I want to experience more of in my life? (You might find it helpful to place your hand on your heart.) Allow the answers to arise in whatever way they do. You may receive words, images, body sensations, symbols, etc. Trust whatever comes and write that down.

2. Now ask, what gets in the way of me having more of that now? Again, trust whatever answers show up for you and write them down.

3. Next question, if I were truly committed to experiencing my heart's desires, what tiny actions could I take? Let the answers come and just dump them on the page. It's helpful to know they may seem out of left field and not make rational sense to your mind. That's ok!

4. Review your list of possible micro-moves and notice which ones light you up. That is to say, the ones that have some energy behind them and speak to your soul.

5. Circle 2-4 micro-moves that you're willing to try over the coming month. You can use the practice tracker below to help you remember and stay present to them.

Remember to infuse each tiny action with the clear intention of what you're inviting into your heart and life.

P.S. When you're ready to go deeper, there are a couple of ways I can support you.

1. Private Coaching -- Shift out of old habitual patterns and into new energy. Custom designed to support you and your heart's desires. Schedule a call here and see if coaching is a fit for you.

2. Join me on retreat -- Potent experiences that liberate and empower. Learn more about upcoming retreats here.

This morning I talked to a friend who is currently dealing with debilitating pain. It's so severe that it's preventing her from doing the normal routine things in life -- sleeping, walking, cooking dinner, etc. She is sleep deprived and exhausted by all of it and there doesn't seem to be a clear end in sight. As you can imagine, it's taking an emotional toll.

As I listened to her talk I could hear the self-judgment in her words. She is forcing herself to push through, keep up the same workload without rest, and is upset that her house has gotten out of control.

You guys -- she can barely walk and she is berating herself for not being able to keep her house clean.

Why am I sharing this with you?

Because we are all guilty of this! 

You have an experience that you convince yourself you shouldn't be having.

You're overwhelmed and tell yourself you shouldn't be.

You're afraid and tell yourself you shouldn't be.

You're angry and tell yourself you shouldn't be.

You're sad and tell yourself to cheer up because you shouldn't be sad.

You're joyful and start to feel a little guilty about it -- shouldn't be that either!

The Buddha taught the root of suffering is wanting things to be other than the way they are.

The tendency to invalidate your experience and think it should somehow be different is totally normal. And, it's really painful.

What if your experience is perfectly valid just as it is?

A few months ago I decided I was going to disrupt the frequent self-judgment and instead practice making myself radically right. When I caught myself shoulding about something -- I should eat better, I should be more focused, I should just let it go -- I would pause and ask myself:

What might be possible if I didn't make myself wrong right now?

I noticed my body would immediately feel lighter and I had more energy with which to handle whatever was happening in the moment.

You might believe beating yourself up is the only way you'll ever improve. But really, it's the very thing that keeps you trapped in a vicious cycle.

Try it for yourself -- The next time you judge yourself (probably won't have to wait long), see if you can drop the judgment and validate your own experience. Let yourself be just as you are in that moment and see what happens.

Don't be surprised if a wave of peace washes over you.

p.s. When you're ready to drop the judgment and step into more self-love there are a couple of ways I can support you.

1. Private coaching will meet you right where you are and help you get where you most want to go. Let's explore what it would be like to work together -- schedule a call with me today.

2. Check out my free guided meditations on Insight Timer. There's one specifically for cultivating self-love :)

I want to share with you a little something I've been doing lately to move some of this energy, and this is a practice that we've been utilizing in my coaching program as well. We collectively did this together the other day, and it was fantastic.

So, this is a practice of shaking it out. It may sound silly, but it totally works. Right now, with everything that we're experiencing, I think almost everybody can agree that emotions are all over the place. There's a lot of uncertainty, and people are dealing with fear, grief, sadness, frustration and a lot of emotions that can be really challenging to process.

There are a lot of meditations that are coming out for calming and anxiety, and all of that's fantastic. I'm a huge advocate for meditation and have a practice that I'm dedicated to myself, and yet - it's a lot to ask of ourselves to sit still with all of this emotion, in all of this experience that's happening in our bodies, our nervous systems, our minds, and our hearts.

I know for myself. I have caught myself holding my breath recently.

I can feel this holding-in experience in the center of my body, literally. It feels like I'm breathing shallowly only to the center of the chest. My neck is tight. I'm kind of clenching my jaw. It's just a really intense experience.

And so physically, I keep reminding myself to breathe, to relax. It's just a symptom off the enormous amount of information that we're trying to process on both an emotional and cognitive level.

So, this practice is just about releasing energy, using the wisdom of the body to release whatever is there.

Do this two-minute shakedown to move some energy and change your state.

I'm going to walk you through it. It's super simple. You can even set a timer!

Step 1:

Take notice of where you are emotionally right now. Like maybe right now, the truth for me is that I feel irritated, or impatient, or just resigned, tired - Whatever is true for you in the moment, start by acknowledging that.  And that's where we'll start in terms of our practice.

Acknowledge where you are, and then we're going to add a little movement to it.

Step 2:

Start shaking. You can start just by shaking a leg.  If you've never done a shaking practice before, you could just start with a leg and just shake it out.

And whatever is there - frustration, irritation, sadness, grief - just give it a little shake, shake, shake.

Switch legs and just imagine that you could shake all the frustration. Not necessarily like you're trying to force it away, but you're giving it some expression. And then maybe bring that up into the knees.

Shake those knees. Shake, shake until you're ready to bring it into the hips. Shake those hips. You can feel it start to make its way into the top of your body, so maybe you'll just shake one arm, but keep breathing a lot as you do this. Shake the other arm. The bottom of your body may want to keep going too. Just let it.

And then shake those shoulders - the heart space, the chest. Then get your head into it. Loosen your neck and let your neck shake.

Just give your whole body a chance to shake. Moving frustration and sadness or whatever is there. Maybe a little voice or a little breath – release it!

Then you might start to feel like, “Okay. Oh, yeah!”

Just a minute or two of shaking is a chance to give expression to something THAT'S really hard to put words around, but our body has a way of knowing and releasing.

Step 3:

Complete the practice by taking note of how you feel now. Relieved. Energized. Grateful.  Settled. Whatever is true for you in the moment.

There's something magical about giving space for our experience, not in an intellectual way, but just in a physical, expressive kind of way.

I hope this is useful. By all means, continue your meditation, but I invite you to add a two-minute shakedown to your self-care routine and let me know how that goes for you.

This message came through so loud and clear. I know someone needs to hear this today. Maybe it's you.

Please read these words slowly and with an open heart to receive them.

There is nothing wrong with you.

You are not broken.

There is nothing about yourself that you need to fix regardless of what that little voice in your head says about it.

Stop trying to beat yourself into a better version. It won't work.

You only need to remember who you are.

You are a powerful creator.

You are whole, complete and perfectly made.

Anything that gets in the way of you experiencing your wholeness is an aspect of your past that is now ready to be healed.

Healing is possible.

It is love that will heal you.

The only work for you to do is to fully and completely love yourself.

How might you begin to embrace the parts of you that you judge as unlovable?

How can you make room in your own heart so that all of you is welcome there?

If this seems like an impossible task, reach out to me. I can help.

You deserve to live in the fullness of who you really are.