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This One Practice is the KEY to Delight

We can’t deny the fact that bad things happen in life. I know we talk often about joy, peace and a Wildhearted life but I don’t take lightly the challenge that life can be for so many. Heartbreak, at the unthinkable level, happens every day and injustice continues to exists. I'm sure you've experienced your share of this in your own life.

I’m speaking to you right now if the conversation in your head goes something like this:

  • I can never have a joyful life

  • I will NEVER get over what happened to me

  • People who get to live those kinds of life are privileged

  • Too many people depend on me

  • I can’t stop to think about this

In my online series, Wholehearted, I quote Alaina Fairchild. It moves me every. single. time. I read it because it so beautifully captures the challenge and vulnerability involved in doing the inner work. It can seem so much easier to simply stay in our familiar comfort zone even if that so-called comfort is personal pain.

Alaina Fairchild Quote

I want you to know that I see you, I hear you and I believe you.

Ready to open the door to healing?

The one practice that can reliably support your inner growth is a daily gratitude practice.

Here is a practice to get you started.

  1. Put a small notebook or post-it pad by your bed.

  2. Pause each night and write down 3 things that you're grateful for before going to sleep.

  3. Breathe into your heart space and allow yourself to feel grateful.

It may feel challenging at first to think of things you're truly grateful for or to actually feel grateful when you write them. It's ok to start small. Just keep going and I assure you it will grow.

You may write water, my car, life, my family at first and then find that your list gets more detailed and rich as you build your gratitude muscle. It's like anything else, the more we practice the easier it gets.

As you develop the ability to conjure gratitude, you can apply it to the MOST challenging situations. It's amazing how quickly gratitude can shift your experience from sadness and overwhelm to peace and contentment. And don't be surprised when you catch yourself being delighted by simple things throughout your day. It's a common side effect of a gratitude practice.

In the Wholehearted series we look at what it takes to develop conscious practices and create a life we love. I assure you, you have the power to do it and you are so worth it.

What am I really available for? A simple practice to help you get clear.

I want to offer you a tool that I use on a regular basis.
I tend to pull this out when I’m feeling confused or unsure. What recently brought me to do it is that I’m grappling with a big decision where I’m a little unclear, so I’m taking a pause to anchor myself to my commitments and what works for me.
I learned this exercise from the brilliant Darla LeDoux. If you missed the podcast episode interview I did with her about living a heart-led life be sure to check it out!
This practice is SO simple but so powerful. It goes like this:
Grab a sheet of paper and split it down the middle.
Label one side “I’m available for…” and label the other side, “I’m not available for...”.
You can make your lists one of two ways:

1. Brain-dump everything you are available for on one side and then move to the other side and brain-dump everything you are not available for.
2. Bounce from one side to the other and make your way down the list.

It can be very powerful to read your list out loud. Seriously. Go to the bathroom mirror and read the list out loud to yourself. Watch this video to where I read mine aloud.
This was my list:

I am available for making wholehearted choices--wholehearted yeses and nos.

I am not available for making decisions out of obligation or pressure.

I am available for clear boundaries and firm deadlines.

I am not available for fixed rules that leave no room for my heart or spirit’s guidance.

I am available for honoring my own rhythms and cycles.

I am not available for playing by somebody else’s rules.

I am available for learning growing and expanding

I am not available for getting distracted by the next opportunity or thinking that I need something else before I start.

I am available for supporting people to live a heart-lead life.

I am not available for people who aren’t willing to take committed actions.

I am available for being supported.

I am not available for doing it all alone.

I am available for twists and turns that end up in magical unexpected places.

I am not available for spinning my wheels trying to figure it all out.

I am available for courageous leaps of faith.

I am not available for ignoring my heart.

I invite you to do this practice. Read it out loud to yourself and really FEEL the power of what you are, or are not, available for.
Share with me what shows up for you! Comment below or connect with me on social media. I always love to hear from you.