Welcome to Day 4: Choose a Wholehearted Yes or No

Welcome back. I really want to congratulate you and acknowledge you for being in action. The four C's are simple, but it doesn't necessarily mean that they're easy.

It really takes something for us to get into action, especially when the noise is loud and telling us that we can't, we shouldn't, and then we might as well wait, and it won't matter anyways, and yada yada, yada. 

So it really takes something to get in action and to begin to create some momentum for yourself. So if you've made it this far, and you've taken these micro moves, give yourself a little nod of thanks. And take a moment to celebrate that you're in committed action around creating a life that you love. Awesome. 

Okay, today's fourth C is, what is it -- choose -- sorry, it took me a second. Choose the fourth C. So what's an area of your life that there's a choice to make? And you've been riding the fence? How can you make a choice? A wholehearted “yes” or a wholehearted “no.”

It can be exhausting to ride the fence, you know, straddling the fence -- deliberating. As long as we're deliberating, we're weighing the options. We're thinking about this or we're thinking about that, but either way, we're stuck in a place, right? This or that, or this or that, has us be here. Stagnant. And there's something really powerful about making a choice and moving with it. Me and my best friend, we call this “choose and move.” Choose and move.

I'm someone who can easily get stuck in deliberation. I love having options. I love exploring the possibilities. So sometimes I can get stuck making a choice, trying to figure out the right way to go or just really not wanting to give up all my options and be nailed to one. 

But I also know that it can be really draining of my energy and it can be a waste of time. So where's an area where you're deliberating and it would really empower you and serve you to choose and move?

Now this requires a certain level of trust that whatever we choose, it's going to work out. I personally believe that there is no wrong choice, that life is always happening for us, not to us. But for us. That means if I choose to go in this direction, even if it doesn't turn out the way I would have wanted it to or thought it would or hope, there's still some benefit in that there's a lesson for me to learn. There's something for me to gain. I really, I can't make a wrong choice, because life is always happening for me. 

So maybe you were trying to choose whether to participate in something or not, whether to purchase something or not. Maybe you're making a decision about whether or not to pursue a certain goal. Give yourself the gift of making a choice. Now, you might try on the choice and notice what it feels like in your body, and as you do, and that could help you. 

So imagine that you get that you say a wholehearted “no” to the thing you're deliberating about. No, I'm not going to do it. I'm not going to take that class. And then notice how it feels in your body when you make that choice. And then try on “yes.” Like a wholehearted “yes.” I'm going to take that class. And notice what it feels like in your body when you say “yes.”

Sometimes that can be really supportive in helping to make a decision. But you might find that neither one of them feels particularly good or comfortable or different. It might be that they feel just the same. And your work then is to notice the noise that tells you I don't know, I don't know what to do. I need to figure it out. Let me, let me wait. Or, I just need to learn a little bit more and choose anyways. My guess is you know exactly an area of your life where you can apply this; something you've been deliberating on -- something that you've been waiting to make a choice about it. My invitation for you is to choose and move.

All right, you guys, see you tomorrow for Day Five as we wrap this all together, and to put it all together and help you understand how you can ongoingly ditch doubt and regain your sense of personal power.